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How to Control Unhealthy Sexual Desires?
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Sexual urges are there and are considered quite normal in all human beings. However, when such urges occur too frequently, it may create disruptions in the daily activities of life and relationships, at times in a very detrimental way. So, one must find ways to control his or her high sex drive in order to enhance the quality of life, relationships, and productivity.
Here are some of the ways to control a high sex drive…
Stay away from tempting situations
Avoiding situations and circumstances that prompt sexual urges. This is the first thing one can do in order to have a check on the frequency of sexual urges. Try to find the cause of your unhealthy desires. Whether it is the pictures of people? If looking at any kind of images or pictures provoke you then take steps to stay away from such pictures. Set boundaries surrounding your computer, Smartphone, and even TV. And if interaction with any person turns you on or gets you aroused, then make sure to meet the person in a public space or any place where other people are around.
Avoid Pornography
In addition to the obvious reasons, that if porn is avoided, will help safeguard against lust, there are other psychological reasons as well. Porn leads to unnatural and unrealistic expectations as well as desensitizes your mind towards your partner. It might not be feasible for you and your partner to live up to what is viewed or you would even want your partner to do so? Now, this is the moment where your unhealthy desire becomes the culprit to divert the focus of your sexual desires outside the conjugal life which may further lead to paths of adultery.
Use of Social Media with Caution
Social media has become a necessary evil of the new age. People through various social media platforms find their pals from past and reunite and even find new people. This may lead to fire the old sparks or may even ignite new ones. This can be extremely risky, for a person who is already in a relationship. Therefore, always remain alert to true intentions when using social media.
Think over the Consequences
When the object of your sexual desire is around you then need to give a thought to the consequences of your action. Ask yourself – Is your action helpful and/or harmless for your conjugal relationship? What will be the reaction of your partner? Or will you be able to deal with the consequences? Always try to think of the end game and where do you want to be?
Question Your Intent
Most of the times, when the mind wanders sexually, the body actually doesn’t seek pure sex. It seeks options to replace something missing in life and relationships. Or it could be also trying to excuse or distract themselves from dealing with something difficult. For each individual, these things will be specific to their experiences in life. You need to figure out the root cause and need to work on that.
Practice Sexual Intimacy
Although there is no way to go back to how you felt when your relationship was new, there are surely ample ways to get back to that phase of excitement. Improving communication, romantic date, passionate foreplay, and thoughtful gestures are some of the examples. When the mind and heart are occupied in the right place, sexual lust has little room to operate.
Consistent Prayer
Another best way to divert your mind from harmful desires is prayers. You can start chanting your favorite prayer in order to prevent your mind from the desires you are feeling. It really helps in rerouting your focus from unhealthy desires, immediately after a few minutes of chanting a holy prayer.
Choose Your Pals Wisely
When struggling with unhealthy sexual desires, you will find a lot of people encouraging and enabling such desires. You can actually continue to be their friend, but avoid joining them in their poor relational choices.
Keep Your Moral Standards High
To be a gentleman is tough, however, the choice is always yours. Despite all the tempting situations and circumstances that life brings your way, one should hold high moral standards. The key to a healthy and quality life is self-discipline. Strictly adhere to it.
Redirect Your Passion
Rather than being a puppet of your own untamed lust, direct your passion towards positive and productive activities. Use your energy to brainstorm about ways you can spend quality time with your partner. Or possibly focus on things that will make you happy in a positive way. You can focus on your work or sports or music or anything that keeps you engaged and away from unusual and unnatural sexual desires.
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